Have you ever had to drag yourself to work?
Is stress or anxiety an issue for you?
I remember at one time in my life when I was so overworked, over-stressed and anxious at work and at home.
It felt like I was doing everything for everyone, and no one did anything for me.
“I can’t ask for help”, I said to myself. “I don’t want to be a burden to others!”
Initially, I thought life would ease up!
But days turned to weeks, and weeks turned to months of 16+ hour work days, nights and weekends spent working.
My health deteriorated, my partner left me, nothing was working for me.
I was working late one night and as I was driving home, I was so exhausted that I crashed my car.
My life crashed – figuratively and literally!
I was quite badly injured and was walking with crutches that I was unable to do something as simple as hanging out my laundry.
This simple act of not being able to do something seemingly basic as hanging out my laundry broke my spirit.
I withdrew further into myself not wanting to be a burden to my friends.
And I started to feel more and more depressed.
One day, someone introduced me to a life coach.
She found out that I had been a designated driver for my friends whenever we’d go out together.
“What do you get from being a designated driver for your friends?”, she asked.
I replied “I feel valued, happy and I can share myself with my friends”.
She asked me “Are you selfish?”.
I was confused.
And she said “So you’re telling me that you get pleasure from helping your friends and yet, you deny them the opportunity to do the same for you? That just sounds selfish to me”.
I learned a valuable lesson that day about giving… and receiving!
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